Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Abso-fn-loot-ly <3
So today I am enjoying a nice time with a few girls I can relate too. The fabulous ladies of Sex and the City, courtesy of my DVDs. What is it about that show that can always make me feel like no matter how stupid guys may be, I am just fine right as I am & where I am. Although a bigger city might be nicer to date in! :)
Frankly that's what makes this site... so exciting!!!
Thursday, May 28, 2009
When does it get easier exactly?
So its been one month. A month since out of no where my life changed & my dreams were crushed without warning. Thankfully I'm just dealing with the pain & not an actual divorce. Still I get the raw emotion that can lead to anger.
Still I don't know if I will ever get to the stage these ladies are at....
DIVORCE CAKES
Oh yeah, there seems to be a market for these things out there.
Still I don't know if I will ever get to the stage these ladies are at....
DIVORCE CAKES
Oh yeah, there seems to be a market for these things out there.
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Cults cut deep
...ok I'm ready to feel better. Unfortunately today doesn't seem to be the day.
I spoke with the ex (ug it hurts to even type that) & we ended up just getting into it. He still claims to have loved & still love me & want my friendship, yet still doesn't see how I can be a part of his life in the future as a girlfriend or wife.
I've heard of cold feet, but his created a whole new polar ice cap. Doesn't help that he has this new church to back up his insecurities. No matter what, it all boils down to he didn't have any real faith in our relationship, our future or me.
I keep wondering what I could have done differently to encourage him or show my support that we can live happily admist the differences. I keep wondering how I can get him to realize what he is doing by ditching his friend, his dreams & retreating into a place where is focus is just on the church & his relationship with god. I know its (& should always be) important to keep that relationship strong, but I don't believe it should be the ONLY relationship.
My belief is love, real love is rare & truly a gift from the almighty - however you perceive it to be. No good can come from destroying it out of fear.
Anyway... enough of my emotional release.... on to today's sites.
Healthy Faith VS UnHealthy Faith - Judgement of other's beliefs that vary from your own is not healthy.
http://www.howcultswork.com/ - Cults also try to cut you off from your friends and family because they hate others being able to influence you. A mind control cult will seek to manoeuvre your life so as to maximize your contact with cult members and minimize your contact with people outside the group, especially those who oppose your involvement.
I promise I will get back to the fluff. I just need to get this out of my system & express it somewhere. I have hope that one day, my ex will find a way to real happiness.
I spoke with the ex (ug it hurts to even type that) & we ended up just getting into it. He still claims to have loved & still love me & want my friendship, yet still doesn't see how I can be a part of his life in the future as a girlfriend or wife.
I've heard of cold feet, but his created a whole new polar ice cap. Doesn't help that he has this new church to back up his insecurities. No matter what, it all boils down to he didn't have any real faith in our relationship, our future or me.
I keep wondering what I could have done differently to encourage him or show my support that we can live happily admist the differences. I keep wondering how I can get him to realize what he is doing by ditching his friend, his dreams & retreating into a place where is focus is just on the church & his relationship with god. I know its (& should always be) important to keep that relationship strong, but I don't believe it should be the ONLY relationship.
My belief is love, real love is rare & truly a gift from the almighty - however you perceive it to be. No good can come from destroying it out of fear.
Anyway... enough of my emotional release.... on to today's sites.
Healthy Faith VS UnHealthy Faith - Judgement of other's beliefs that vary from your own is not healthy.
http://www.howcultswork.com/ - Cults also try to cut you off from your friends and family because they hate others being able to influence you. A mind control cult will seek to manoeuvre your life so as to maximize your contact with cult members and minimize your contact with people outside the group, especially those who oppose your involvement.
I promise I will get back to the fluff. I just need to get this out of my system & express it somewhere. I have hope that one day, my ex will find a way to real happiness.
Friday, May 1, 2009
I'm the stuff that got left behind
So today....I am all over the place. One moment I'm optimistic thinking we can work it out, the next I'm throwing a pity party for myself wondering why I wasn't enough, then I get pissed & just want to celebrate that I escaped a life with this guy. But the reality is my heart is broken & nothing but time will heal. The anger is just my best defense at the moment.
Hopefully I can do something good with the energy.
Like these people...
Today's site gives gals (& guys) a place to unload the leftovers of the relationship that is no more. Make a little cash from the pain.
Hopefully I can do something good with the energy.
Like these people...
Today's site gives gals (& guys) a place to unload the leftovers of the relationship that is no more. Make a little cash from the pain.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
how to?
So I'm honest... sometimes too much so, but its me. Which frankly it feels like I am the sole person alive who thinks the same.
In trying to find some way of dealing with the pain I'm going through & trying to spend my time proactively planning what I should do next rather than letting my mind wander & end up bawling for the millionth time, I have discovered that there is a TON OF CRAP advice online!
Like "On the other hand if there was still some hope that you could get back to the old person then do your best to restore this relation,this would be a good idea since he may have really been the best match for you.
In trying to find some way of dealing with the pain I'm going through & trying to spend my time proactively planning what I should do next rather than letting my mind wander & end up bawling for the millionth time, I have discovered that there is a TON OF CRAP advice online!
Like "On the other hand if there was still some hope that you could get back to the old person then do your best to restore this relation,this would be a good idea since he may have really been the best match for you.
One final thing, know that if there was a best match, that doesn’t mean that he will be the one, It’s only the best match that you have found and not the best match that does exist, there may be still out there a better match but you just didn’t happen to meet him." REALLY?? Thanks that helps... he might have been the best match & you should chase after him like crazy! Jeez I feel much better now.
Argh.
Is there really anyway to actually feel better? I mean I have been through break ups before, but dang it hurts. Especially thinking I wasted the past few years & now have to start dating again at 31. I was so glad to be over that whole scene. I know, don't count your diamonds before they are slipped on your finger, but we had picked out designs! Plus he keeps saying he wants to be friends & not lose the closeness. HUH? So its JUST the RELIGION? Argh!!!
Not that I have any desire to date again. So do I just give up on the dreams? Just live my life solo with the birds. Resolve to just be.
Part of me wants to cry nonstop, part of me wants to deck him, part of me wants to get him in a straight jacket & part of me wants one for myself!
What's a girl to do?
Play mindless games online. Sometimes all you can do is pass time reminding yourself to breath & hope that as the minutes tick on, then the pain will go away.
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Can I get yo digits?
well guess who feels almost human today? me!! :) I'm still tired, which is redonkulous since I have barely been doing anything other than sleeping, watching movies & visiting the porcelain goddess to make the requisite sacrifices (oh joy). Even got up to make lunch, roasted chicken breast with rice & gravy. Which will also be leftovers since its still just me around here. Still a gal has to hope that I am getting better & will wake up tomorrow with no feeling of sickness at all.
In checking out Wendy's Weight...What? blog (warning for those who check it out at work - she has automatic music that will play unless you hit the pause button!), I noticed that she mentioned my blog! :) Gotta love it when you know someone actually reads this. Anyway she also linked to another great post, which had a clip from MadTV about a character who is the typical jerk you meet just when you want a bit of time to yourself. Yes ladies the ever annoying Number Collector. He just doesn't seem to take hints & nothing will stop him from reaching his goal, the coveted number. Well, sometimes no thank you doesn't seem to register with these guys, for those times
you need back up.
Which is why some blessed soul created the REJECT LINE! or as it is listed in my phone, my friend Rej who I will be staying with & is the best number to reach me at since my cell phone is about to die & oh gee I forgot to pay the bills... yadda yadda yadda... just make up whatever excuse feels comfortable for you. Just give it to the creep gracefully & save you time in dealing with him & it saves him face in front of his friends (which is usually why some of the guys are being so pressing!).
What really matters is that you give him the number. Then they call & are rejected by a recording..... wha wha whaaaaa... hilarious. yeah I called it a few times & about wet my pants laughing at the different options.
Many, many thanks to the girl who enlightened me to the magical protective powers of the reject line. LOVE IT!
ok ok, it is technically called the Rejection Line, but I have been calling it the reject line so long that just doesn't seem right to say it the other (correct) way!
huh? say you want the number? well here you go: 212-479-7990, or you can check out the pay for one that is more local to your area (there is even one in Dublin!).
You can thank me later! ; )
In checking out Wendy's Weight...What? blog (warning for those who check it out at work - she has automatic music that will play unless you hit the pause button!), I noticed that she mentioned my blog! :) Gotta love it when you know someone actually reads this. Anyway she also linked to another great post, which had a clip from MadTV about a character who is the typical jerk you meet just when you want a bit of time to yourself. Yes ladies the ever annoying Number Collector. He just doesn't seem to take hints & nothing will stop him from reaching his goal, the coveted number. Well, sometimes no thank you doesn't seem to register with these guys, for those times
you need back up.Which is why some blessed soul created the REJECT LINE! or as it is listed in my phone, my friend Rej who I will be staying with & is the best number to reach me at since my cell phone is about to die & oh gee I forgot to pay the bills... yadda yadda yadda... just make up whatever excuse feels comfortable for you. Just give it to the creep gracefully & save you time in dealing with him & it saves him face in front of his friends (which is usually why some of the guys are being so pressing!).
What really matters is that you give him the number. Then they call & are rejected by a recording..... wha wha whaaaaa... hilarious. yeah I called it a few times & about wet my pants laughing at the different options.
Many, many thanks to the girl who enlightened me to the magical protective powers of the reject line. LOVE IT!
ok ok, it is technically called the Rejection Line, but I have been calling it the reject line so long that just doesn't seem right to say it the other (correct) way!
huh? say you want the number? well here you go: 212-479-7990, or you can check out the pay for one that is more local to your area (there is even one in Dublin!).
You can thank me later! ; )
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